2 Ways To Kill Inferiority Complex And Be Bold Of Your Decisions
One thing that I love so much is being natural. The ladies that go on natural hair, skin, and all that tickles my fancy a lot!
Wait… Why do you fix eyelashes? Why did you start making up but you were the same person that posted some time ago that it is 100% natural for you.
Okay… This is not a personal issue, perhaps you thought that I am having beef with someone and decided to lambast the person here. No. Far from it. You see, the inferiority complex has done a lot more harm than good in our society today. My problem is that I always would want to feel among… I don’t want to be inferior. And now I’m leaving the life of almost everybody I see in me. I don’t have a life of my own again. But it’s not supposed to be like that, right?
Some months ago, I discovered that one of the ways to kill inferiority complex is the ability to say these two things:
1. No!
2. This is my Decision.
You say a “No” to create a boundary. You tell the next person that
“hey, this is where our boundaries stop, and beyond this point is a no-go area.”
Sensible humans would respect that your “no” after considering. Should they still want to disrespect your “no”, then you say,
“this is my decision” to clear the air that the “no” was an intentional one.
When I began to practice this, it was a bit awkward. People would want to persuade me in one way or the other or they’d want to know why I decided so or why I said no. But those were unnecessary. Then they tried to make me feel my old inferiority by joking about my decision and all that. Those didn’t work either. So long as I had my “why” I wasn’t going to be persuaded to do what I wasn’t ready to do. That way, I conquered.
Now, back to my first question, why do you wear an eyelash? Why do you wear make-up?
Is that what you wanted or because you were laughed at with the old saying “she’s a church girl?” and that saying usually makes you feel inferior and to conquer it you found solace in wearing them?
My message is, be bold and fearless about your decisions and don’t let anyone talk down on you so long as you know your “why”.
PS: I used make-up and eyelashes because they’ll catch your attention. Ciao
#naturalblackgirlie #BeBold
Written by Stanley Mata
